Reminder To Myself: It’s Just A Bad Day, Not A Bad Life

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It’s been one of those days, and it’s not quite 10:00am. The morning started out great, everything went smoothly. Somewhere between my second cup of coffee and dropping the kids off to school, things shifted. I let a few outside triggers get the better of me–AGAIN. I know better. I swear I’m my own worst enemy. Time to catastrophize everything, because I do it so well. I let a little thing turn into a huge thing, and then made it all about me. Which then leads me to thinking, “I need to make an appointment with my shrink because obviously I have undiagnosed Rejection Sensitivity Disorder.” Statistically speaking it is quite prevalent in people with Bipolar Disorder, Borderline Personality Disorder, and a bunch of other mental illnesses.

OK NICOLE, JUST STOP!

How about instead of continuing along the same path that has proven time and time again to up anxiety, find excuses, and feel sorry for myself, I just find a healthier way of dealing with my stressors? Now that sounds like something I can get on board with, but it is easier said than done. I can give the best advice and guidance to 26,000+ people on The Lithium Chronicles Facebook page, but I am guilty of being unable to apply said advice to my own life.

This is where I am so thankful for my support systems. they keep me on track. But, I really need to find some healthier coping mechanisms. I hate the feeling of being personally attacked (when I’m not) I do this to myself. Do you do this as well? How do change this? I have done so much CBT, I continue mindfulness, and I try my best to not wallow. It’s ok to have a bad day but it’s not ok for me personally to do the whole catastrophisizing stuff. Any suggestions on how you all get through it?

Sometimes I’m great and nothing phases me. Other times, a look is all it takes to send me into a spiral of self loathing, doubt and isolation. I don’t like this side of me. I know it’s my illness, but I don’t want to give in to it. I see people who don’t do this, and I admire them, A bad day is ok. Continuing the cycle of creating your own bad days is not ok. Suggestions welcome and appreciated.

atwar

16 thoughts on “Reminder To Myself: It’s Just A Bad Day, Not A Bad Life

  1. Awesome, relevant post as always, Nicole!

    I go through rejection sensitivity ALL the time! If someone looks at me in weird way, I go off inside my head. I get paranoid and then I make it personal. I’ll react the same way online (“Why didn’t he respond to that tag on Facebook with even just a “like”? He must hate me now!” or “Why did she stop following my posts like she used to do all the time? Because I’m a big fat loser!” How dumb is that?

    What. A. Waste. Of. Life. Energy!

    You asked us for suggestions. While nothing has triggered me majorly today, I’m funky. I’m going to treat myself and use the “Calgon, take me away” method, i.e. total escapism. I dropped the girls off at school. Luckily I drove away without a road rage incident with another aggro parent in the school parking lot. (That could really throw me off!)

    I seldom do this, but I’m going to hop onto Netflix streaming and watch a comic perform who has mental illness. I’ve heard great things about this woman; her name is Maria Banford. I figure comedy is just the ticket on this dreary morning, at least for a little while. I don’t know if that appeals to you (or if you have Netflix streaming), but in any case can you do a nice thing for yourself to lessen or hopefully erase your feeling of being psychically attacked?

    I’m so sorry about that….that SUCKS! I appreciate so much that you’ve shared how you’re feeling….I need the reminder, as does everyone, that when we have a bad day, that’s just it: it’s one a bad day.

    I hope that the rest of your day shifts so that the yucky, icky feelings melt away. You help so many people, and I’m going to send a message to the Karma Society to give you a (big) break, because you deserve it!!!

    (((hugs))))
    Dy

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    1. Thank you, Dyane. Now I must also make a formal apology for being an ass after I reacted poorly. Again, it wasn’t an attack on me.

      Thank you for your suggestions. I am sorry you feel this way as well, but it is a small comfort to know I’m not the only one ❤

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      1. At least you care enough to make an apology! A lot of people wouldn’t even do that. (I’m glad the attack wasn’t on you – thanks for clarifying; I’m not gong to be awake for the next 20 years or so!!!) You are not the only one! The bad feelings will melt away like the Wicked Witch with water thrown at her – don’t worry. You’re a great, beautiful woman with a generous heart, and that’s all that really matters.

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  2. DBT has proven to be a great source of support when I’m self sabotaging myself. Today I am struggling tremendously. Kids have no school due to a snowstorm, I’m working from home (which I can’t complain really) and just the fact of not taking any medicine, it has me in a state of despair. But I keep telling to myself, “It is okay to feel this way, I am not going to judge my feelings even if they are not pleasant. It is okay to let myself be distressed for a while” easier said than done right? but what it is important is to allow those feelings instead of judging them. I’ve been crying all day, but I know deep inside that I will enjoy myself, even when life is hard.

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  3. Finally! A name for my long-suffering malady–Rejection Sensitivity Disorder. I, too, am a victim of this automatic reaction to things from real criticism to a perceived dislike. You mean everyone doesn’t like me? I don’t know when the world turned so cruel. On me, of course. It’s all aimed at ME. A hallmark of RSD. Sigh, I wish I had better advice, but this is what I do. First, I try some CBT to convince myself I’ve misunderstood. I also will contact people that I KNOW always build me up. A quick fix of them does wonders. But I know this feeling will go away. It always does. So sometimes I just have to wait it out. Bipolar should have come with a warning label that a whole lot of Waiting It Out is a common side effect.

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